The Therapy Relationship
The Therapist Guide When I think about the journey of therapy, I visualize the journey of Dante through the 3 epic poems of Il Inferno, Il Purgatorio, e Il Paraiso. In order for Dante to experience the fullness of paradise, he experiences the horrors of the rings of...
Building Confidence in Yourself… When You Honestly Believe You Are A Loser
Building confidence with or without a therapist... The title says most of what this is about. You hear people tell you that you are great, good at certain things, and that all makes sense. You believe them mostly. What is difficult is when you look at your life,...
WTF IS WRONG WITH ME RIGHT NOW: Week 3 of Quarantine, the Coronavirus and the Nervous System
In the Los Angeles area, we are entering week 3 of quarantine. For those of us abiding by social distancing, and for those in at-risk categories- this means minimal if any contact outside of our house. Many people report feeling lethargic, irritable, and “lazy”. I...
3 Hacks for the Ambivalent-Avoidant Relationship
Let’s talk about the ambivalent and avoidant attachment connection and its relationship to toxicity and codependency.
I want to quickly review how each of these attachments are formed and then go into 3 tips for repairing attachment in a relationship that has an avoidant/ambivalent match up.
Therapy for the Anxious Avoidant Attachment
The basis of the Anxious Avoidant Attachment Relationships and connections are the basis of human existence. In no era or time have we seen evidence that humans function alone. We run in packs. As we have evolved, the way we connect changed. In addition, we...
Have You Ever Been Called Toxic, Narcissistic, or Borderline?
Have People Called You Toxic, Narcissistic, or Borderline? You aren't toxic. You just have Trauma. Being called toxic, narcissistic, or borderline can feel devastating. Our initial reactions may include getting angry, lashing out, or denying we are toxic. ...
How Your Trauma Affects Your Kids
How your trauma affects your kids… Dear reader, This article may not be an easy pill to swallow. But trust me, when I say reading it and hearing it from your heart could be life changing. PAX Kristin Martinez- President When we get the news that we are going to be...
4 Ways to Improve Your Attachment with Your Child
4 ways that you can build a secure attachment with your child Heal yourself All 3 of the insecure attachment styles happen because of the parent’s issues, not the child. We have to be willing to recognize our experience, and be honest with the way it is affecting our...
Are YOU Securely Attached to Your Children, and Are You Securely Attached to Your Parents?
Want to securely attach to your child? There’s so much information out there about the best way to bond and attach to your baby. Some of it can make us feel like a load of poo, right? Because the truth is that- we are humans. The other truth,...
The Need to be Appreciated
The Need to be Appreciated Recently, I’ve had a chance to really look at my life, and try to understand why I got burnt out doing things that I love. Among putting too much pressure on myself, taking too much on at once, and being a perfectionist- I realized that I...